This past Friday I have had the honor and the privilege of celebrating my first anniversary as a married couple with my wonderful husband. My husband and I celebrated the day by having a super delicious breakfast feast and in the evening we went on a lovely dinner cruise admiring the city lights of New York City. It was truly a great day and as you will see in the following pictures, one in which we very much enjoyed ourselves.
However, being reflective as always, I decided to think about what I have learned since embarking on this great journey of marriage. To provide some background, I met my husband at work and he was actually my classroom paraprofessional until his student moved. Fast forward several months and one fateful date, and my husband and I have been inseparable ever since! After almost a year of dating he popped the question and we married last year.
Yet some of the many things I have enjoyed about our relationship is the open communication we share with one another, selflessness, acceptance of each other’s individuality and the sheer amount of joy and fun we have together. I consider myself an introverted person and more reserved and selective of who I allow within my inner circle but with my husband we can have the best time together, or even together alone. For example, we are perfectly content spending an afternoon working on our respective individual projects or indulging in our solo hobbies like reading or playing video games in the same room and still have the best time. In essence we can both simply be in each other’s company, in our own little worlds, and remain happy.
For many, it may sound weird or off-putting and was a pleasant surprise for me as I had never had that. Though if there’s one fundamental thing I’ve learned is that you can’t compare yourself to other relationships, what works for you just works. How else can you explain couples who’ve known and dated each other for mere weeks before getting married lasting longer (and continuing ever stronger) than couples who’ve known each other for years and marriage ended in divorce? I’m not claiming my marriage or relationship is somehow greater or superior or perfect, but it is for me which is what counts.
Of course I have been fortunate in that my husband and I do not argue much, if at all, and we share many important core values and ideals which definitely aid in our marriage. So as I look forward to many more wonderful years with my husband, I would definitely say our marriage has taught me much in how to be a better person, partner, friend, and even teacher. I am extremely and eternally grateful for the adventure and am enjoying the ride!
Do you have any advice, tips, insights or anecdotes to share? Please comment below and thanks for reading!